11.19.2013

Breaking the Silence

 This quote moved me. 
Convicted me. 
Summoned me.
(By the way, I love Ernest Hemingway, don't you?)

You may, or may not, have noticed my absence in the writing world over the past several months.
I've posted a few times, but I haven't really "written" much. 
My hiatus wasn't planned, it just morphed into one as time passed.

Looking back, I can think of a few reasons, though the reasons really aren't too important.
I believe the primary reason is spiritual warfare.
Satan loves to whisper lies in our ears and destroy our confidence in our outreach/ministry.
It turns out that this space has been a huge ministry over the years, so it makes perfect sense that Satan would try to convince me that my writing is useless.
That no one cares. That no one reads. That sharing here is pointless.

While I love sleep dearly, I am a night person.
My creative energy comes alive and I usually get my most inspiring ideas after dark.
As such, I typically hear God speak the loudest and clearest to me in the night hour. 
Specifically, during the midnight hour. 
I have been awakened on a few occasions lately.
God has been prompting me to write again. Really write. 

So, when I stumbled across this Hemingway quote, "Write hard and clear about what hurts," I knew it was time to write again. 
I have journals and books of poetry that I wrote throughout my youth and teenage years.
Most of it was about hurt.
Some of it seems dumb and juvenile when I read it now, but I'm so thankful that I took the time to write what I felt.
I wasn't some numb corpse merely going through the motions of life, I was feeling every ounce of emotion that came my way and I wrote about it.
I wrote hard and clear.
I've always been an avid reader and lover of poetry, so perhaps that is an avenue I will reintroduce my right hand to.
There are always going to be people who perceive my life {and probably yours, too} as pretty close to perfect.
{And write snarky, mean-spirited comments telling me so; my advice: STOP READING.}
Don't we all have that tendency? To look at other people's lives through the screen of a computer, smart phone, or tablet and think, "Wow, they really have it together. Their home is gorgeous, their marriage is wonderful, their kids are fabulous, their wardrobe is perfect and the list goes on."
But it's not true. No one has it all together. No one has a perfect life.
My life is far from perfect. 

I am blessed to have what I have and to live the life I live, make no mistake about that.
But, friends, my life is involves hurt, too. Everyone's does.
I don't believe in leveraging hurt or pain, and I also don't want to constantly dwell on my hurt. 
Most people do not want to dwell on negativity, hence the always wonderful social media statuses and pictures.
But, there are times when it's okay to be transparent and share what we are really feeling and enduring...as long as we are trying to overcome and not wallow.
It's also okay to be genuinely happy for someone else and to share their joy even when we really just don't feel like it.

So, even if no one reads or cares, I think I'm back to write again.
Hard and clear. 
Not just about what hurts, but about what and whom heals.
Because the Healer has called me to use my words, to write, to speak truth.
I want to celebrate with words. 

50 comments:

  1. I'm so glad to see you back and writing again. Your blog is one of my favorites!!

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  2. So happy to have you writing again here!

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  3. You're one of my favorites!

    I find myself pulling away from social media more and more every day. In the last year I've deleted Facebook, unfollowed about 30 blogs and made my own blog private. I go back and forth with deleting Instagram, but I'm having a hard time getting rid of that one just yet! I think a lot has to do with exactly what you said, and just like the quote, "Don't compare your behind the scenes to everyone else's highlight reel", is something I'm trying to remind myself of!

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  4. I am so glad you are back to writing!! I check every day to see if you have posted something..I follow about 8 blogs faithfully...your's is one...and it just makes me so sad when I see mean posts....if I don't care for a blogger or her point of view, I just unfollow...no need to be mean! So I can't wait to hear more about your hubby's vet practice and the amazing things he does with animals...such a ministry to so many and I love seeing pics of your home...while mine will never look like yours, it's great to see beautiful things created by beautiful people!! Happy writing!!

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  5. I have missed your writing!! I'm glad you are going to write again, so we can support you, the way you have provided support for others, like myself!! I hope this hurt passes and I look forward to hearing about from the strict stand point of helping you through - no one deserves to hurt. I hope you know you can email me anytime. Welcome back

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  6. Hello "friend" (this is how I would typically great my real life girlfriends)! :) After getting married in August I haven't really kept up to date on some of my favorite blogs! But, I decided to get back on a few weeks ago and see what some of my favorite ladies have been up to! I was so sad when I realized that I'd only missed a couple from you! So, even for those of us who haven't been online ourselves lately (and certainly those who are regulars), let me tell you...you were missed! Blogs can be so encouraging and fun to read! I can't tell you how many times a post of yours has encouraged me or made me laugh when I realized we both had the same PB dishes that wouldn't fit in our cabinets :) ! So, I found it to be fitting that the Lord would give me an opportunity to be an encouragement to you! :) Write! You are great at it! And you are making a difference! Don't let Satan or the ugly comments of those who choose to make them keep you from sharing your story! I am so thankful that the Lord has given you an avenue to share the sweet lady the Lord shaped you into! :) Looking forward to reading more posts from you!

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  7. You make a difference...and you've been missed.

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  8. Happy to read your words again!

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  9. I am so glad that you are back writing. I don't know you but you have been on my heart often.
    Blessings,
    LeeAnne

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  10. Every day I check your blog to see if there's a post! I'm always disappointed if you haven't written so please continue to write! I enjoy reading your words!!! In these times, I feel like it's so important for Christians to be seen and heard. It gives me hope that there is still good in the world!!! You have a sweet soul-share it!!! Please keep blogging!

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  11. So glad you are back! What a wonderfully written and powerful post. I admire your courage and strength. God bless!

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  12. I am so sorry you had to suffer such attacks...I'm praying that God blesses you with the strength you need to continue blogging. I am very happy to see that you are back:)

    Hugs-
    Amelia

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  13. Love this post and all of your honesty! Can't wait to see what you have to share with us!

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  14. SO glad to see that you're back! I have the hardest time realizing that not every blogger's life is perfect--it's so hard for me to fathom that they could have any problems, when all I see are Instagrams of their cute new shoes, posts about their fun vacations, and tweets about fun things they're doing with their friends.

    I always look forward to your posts--you are doing such great things through The Lord!

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  15. I also am glad you are back. I love reading your blog and have missed you not posting much. I don't think that you act like your life is perfect and you have it all together. You shared your heart when you told us about your experiences with your Dad growing up and now. You were very real with what you shared. It is wonderful to see how God is working in your heart in that situation alone. Keep writing and let your light shine brightly!

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  16. Your blog is my favorite to read, just something about it soothes my soul. I'm so glad you're back, I missed you! <3 xoxo

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  17. I'm so glad you're back. I just love your blog friend!!!

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  18. So great to see a post from you as I was just thinking you had not posted in awhile. Love your blog and honesty!

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  19. I've missed you, glad to know you are coming back! I enjoy everything you share and I've missed keeping up with your life and experiences. I think we all forget from time to time that social media life isn't real life. Just like reality TV isn't reality. ( i told a judge that once in a pageant and i believe it cost me the title, found out after the fact he'd been a finalist to be on survivor) Its a shame people put others down, for whatever reason. Be strong and write on, may of us seem to agree that one of the major reasons we enjoy your blog is because you are so passionate and convicted in your beliefs and opinions.

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  20. So glad you're back.....been hoping every day! Love all your posts and pictures ! Don't let anyone negative put out your light ! Syrupmaker in So Ga.

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  21. So glad you're back! One of the main reasons I read your blog is because of your love for the Lord, your husband, and your family...and not to mention your gorgeous style and home ;) Thank you always for your honesty..and don't change the way you write because of others.

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  22. I whole heartily agree with you! It's so understandable why some bloggers are seen as having a "perfect life" because they choose to only share the joyful moments. I've found that I identify more with the writers who really just bare all and let it be seen. We all know life isn't always beautiful and perfect but I avidly believe that sincere blogging is the only way to really do it. We are reading, we do care, and we want you to be as "you" as possible. God will triumph over everything, keep writing the way he tells you so and there's no way it won't be worth it! So glad you're back!

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  23. I'm so glad you'll be writing more! I discovered your blog a few months ago, and I love it! I used it to help me redecorate my bedroom and also to decide to visit the Southern Living Idea House a few weeks ago in Nashville with my BFFs! :)

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  24. I know your heart so I cannot wait to savor your words. Praying for you daily as I committed to this past March. Your name is in my prayers EVERY day.

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  25. Yay, Cherish! I love your blog and your writing does make a difference!

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  26. I am so excited you are back to writing! I always check to see if you've blogged every day! You are one of my absolute favorite bloggers and your love for the Lord, your husband, and others constantly shines through everything you do and say. You are such an inspiration, especially on those days that are harder than others! Keep letting your light shine! Excited to read new posts!

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  27. Happy to see you back blogging again.. Your blog is one of my favorite reads.

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  28. So happy to see your "words" again. You have a gift...don't let Satan hide that. Wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving surrounded by those you love.

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  29. What a treat I had this morning when I woke up and saw an email that you have a new post! Your blog is certainly a ministry. In a way it's a teaching ministry. Through your posts, you teach other women about who Jesus is and how He works in your every day life.

    In 2 Timothy 2, Paul talks about the suffering of faithful teachers (v 2-3). LOL, it's such an uplifting topic. He says that if we are good soldiers of Jesus, we will suffer hardship.

    That is exactly what happens to you on this blog. You endure hardship, whether it be attacks from satan, hurt, sadness, loneliness, or the general unraveling of areas of your life. Thankfully through the hardship, the Word of God flows out, into the world, as long as you keep sharing it.

    Later (v 10) Paul says that he keeps enduring for all of those people who are chosen by God so that they might obtain salvation in Jesus. It's selflessness defined saying, "my life is full of drama and heartache so you can have eternity with Christ."

    If one persons life is changed, from this blog, it is all worth it. I am sure more than one person has been moved into a closer relationship with Christ because of this blog.

    You probably won't know how many women you've touched until you are with Jesus but I know that when you see all of those women lined up, it will certainly have been worth every.single.hardship.

    I will end my novel now but I just wanted to encourage you. Keep writing, dear sister in Christ. Keep writing.

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  30. Cherish,
    I don't have a blog, but I am a blog stalker (not in a weird way). I do enjoy yours! I feel this is definantly a ministry that the Lord has given you. Please do not quinch the Holy Spirit's work through you! I enjoy reading something that is uplifting and Christ honoring. Sometimes your readers are silent (like me) but that does not mean we are not there for you. I will be praying for you my dear sweet sister in Christ!
    Love in Christ,
    Wendy in Alabama

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  31. I could have written Wendy's comment above!!! Please keep writing!!!
    Cheryl from Ohio

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  32. Thank you so much for coming back!! Your blog has meant the world to me..You have every right to your feelings! You never know when someone else may be or have experienced the same things as you have been thru..It gives us all hope in this life!! Thank you for taking the time to blog..

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  33. I don't know where or how I found your blog but I love it! It is very inspirational and simply lovely to look at. Your travels and the recipes and your home and even the hurt with your family members was good to read so please keep it up. I even got my 27 year old daughter involved and she reads your blog. Your faith shines like the light we all need in these last days. I also am so glad you are back to writing. God Bless you!
    Kelly

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  34. Cherish, I don't think I'm only speaking for myself when I say that your words are valued here- you are positive, uplifting, and inspirational. Even when the posts aren't quite as positive or cheerful as the others, guess what? Those words are valued, too. You are one of those people who has the light of the Lord, and it shines through your words, even in this little ol' blog world :) Looking forward to your future blog posts!

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  35. Cherish, I don't think I'm only speaking for myself when I say that your words are valued here- you are positive, uplifting, and inspirational. Even when the posts aren't quite as positive or cheerful as the others, guess what? Those words are valued, too. You are one of those people who has the light of the Lord, and it shines through your words, even in this little ol' blog world :) Looking forward to your future blog posts!

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  36. I feel like that also. thank for writing it help my day. thank you again. jennifer

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  37. Hi Cherish, as a new follower of Christ and a VERY homesick Georgian your blog means a lot to me and I'm so happy to see you are writing again. It keeps me uplifted spiritually and helps keep me focused on my goal of moving back to GA, we are planning to be back by next summer!
    many blessings,
    Heather

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  38. Hi. I found you blog a while ago and I love reading all of it. Please keep writing and sharing.
    Warmly,
    Leanne

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  39. The more you write, the more I come back! You have such a giving and warm heart that God has blessed you with, and it shows in your posts...so the more that you write, the better! You'll continue to grow as a person, but your blog will continue to also grow as a platform for all sorts of adventures and relationships with others. Your openness and sweetness just shines through it! Yours, Liz (P.S. Proverbs 31:25 is always inspiring to me. Go read it!)

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  40. When God has given us a gift and we put that gift to use for him and his kingdom that is a compliment to him. I'm so glad to see that you are back and using your gift that you have been blessed with. God Bless!

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  41. I love your blog although I rarely comment. Don't ever let Satan tell you no one is reading and no one cares…..you are such an inspiration and you write so authentically. Glad you are back here….you were missed!!!

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  42. We do read and we do care. You touch more people than you know. And don't worry about people who say nasty things, in blog-land that will always be the case. They feel they can hide behind the web and be as hurtful as they want.
    When I read your story about the visit to your father's house this summer, I was particularly touched. My husband and his children have not been as close over the years as I think everyone would have liked. When reading your story, I felt that God touched my heart to be more kind to my step children, I so often forget that they have grown up with a lot of hurt, betrayal and uncertainty. They are all adult children now but so are you and it made me realize that the hurt can still persist even into adulthood.
    Thank you
    Pat

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  43. You are one of the main reasons I started blogging, I've read your blog for the longest time and love your heart and to hear your stories. So glad you're back to writing! Have a blessed Thanksgiving, friend. Praying for you!

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  44. So glad you are writing again, Cherish. I think we have probably all been checking a lot recently for new posts and wondering why not. You blog is happy, positive (even in the face of negativity sometimes) and fun to read. Simply ignore the negative comments, and delete. For every snotty and cutting remark, there are hundreds of people who enjoy reading what you write. From England with love, Fiona x

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  45. I'm late to the party but I have so missed your posts! I'm happy to hear that you're back and just remember - the people that care to write hateful comments to you are the same people that wish they could be in your place. Nothing but jealousy provides enough conviction for someone to write something mean spirited to someone they don't even know. Wishing you all the best! :)

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  46. It is by pure chance that I came across your blog. I totally agree that one must write from the heart and cover all that has happened to us no matter what. It is not until one looks back through time that you truely see the hand of God wroking in our lives. Each step that has happened was for a reason--even if we don't understand why.
    I was your Uncle Randall's "summer friend" and at times if we had not respected our families' and each other, life would have been so different for us. I went away to college, which was the first time I had ever been away from my family, and my "summer friend". I felt abandoned and alone. I was so low I thought I would never be able to put the pieces back together. Suicide seemed an option.
    By a strange twist of fate and chance, I meet a young man that would change my life. He picked up the broken pieces of my heart and put me back together. We eloped December 1964. Now almost 49 years later our family consist of 4 children, 10 grandchildren and almost 3 great- grandchildren ( girl due late spring 2014).
    There have many turns in our journey as we grew closer than 2 great oaks and I would not change anything that has came our way. David stood by me through all my cancers ( 6 basal cells that have altered my appearance, Breast cancer in 2005 and Uterine Cancer 2007 (Maligant Mixed Mullerian). When Mom and Dad died, David was my rock and I was his when his Mom and Dad died.
    Our time seems to slip by more quickly as we grow older. Together, we can make this final journey.

    I wish you and your family a long and Happy life. Remember...It's never been what others think about you...It will always be what is between you, your husband, your family and God.

    Regina

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  47. Thank you for being faithful. Since you are a Christian, I will share a few verses with you:

    1. James 1:2-4 "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

    2. 1 Corinthians 15:58 "Therefore, my dear brothers stand firm; let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain."

    3. Hebrews 12:3 "Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."

    It looks to me like you have done these things. You have matured in your faith as a result of this test. You were steadfast. You did not lose your joy despite persecution.

    A brother in Christ

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