9.19.2011

Why I Blog

Believe it or not, I started this blog over 5 years ago. 
I had no idea what I was doing, but I knew that I wanted to share our journey as a married couple at UGA with family and friends.
 I also have a passion for writing. 
So, unlike many of the blogs out there, many of our family members read it religiously to see what we're doing since we live so far away from them. 
That being said, I can't always post about things I'd like to just vent about. 
The last thing I want is a phone call from a parent or grandparent asking if we're getting a divorce, or something of the like. 
Which has happened, by the way.
So you see, this blog is a double edged sword. 
I love it that our family and friends can keep up with our lives while we are away and that it makes them feel close to us to read it. 
But at the same time, I feel a strong need to censor what I post. 
That's not always a bad thing.
If you wonder why I always post so many pictures, and how our day to day lives can tend to always look hunky dory, it's because we are choosing to be respectful to our families.
Of course we argue and we have bad days. Who doesn't? 
Some days I'm so homesick and depressed I can't see straight. 
Some days I feel lost. Who doesn't?
Most days I know I am right where the Lord wants me to be whether I am "feeling it" or not. 
The point is that I choose to write and focus on the positive things going on in our lives for the most part. 
It makes me feel better and keeps my attitude and outlook in check.
We do not have it all figured out. 
We do not have it all together. 
We are in no way trying to portray that our lives are full of pure fun and perfection.
Please believe me when I tell you that. 
In a way, I am thankful that I have my family and friends to think about when I write because I rarely ever post things that I regret.
On the other hand, sometimes I wish no one I knew read it so I could just vent and be really real, you know?
The good, the Bad, and the UGLY.
Maybe I should start a private vent blog...hmmm.
I will share a little secret with you, though. 
You have no idea how many "draft" posts I have where I've just written my thoughts and feelings on certain situations and circumstances.
Those posts will never be published. 
They are personal.
And I'm here to tell you that it is totally okay to do that. 
Writing is therapeutic for me, but the whole world doesn't need to know every single high and low I experience as a human being.
Truthfully, the world doesn't care.
All you need to know is that because I am a human, I am imperfect and a sinner.
If you ever get the impression that everything in our world is perfect, I am so sorry that I have given you that impression. 
Please believe me when I tell you it's not.
It's nowhere close. 
Just know that I am choosing to respect my family and it's okay to keep personal things private.
While I believe in having your own voice and opinions, I also believe it's important to be respectful.
I am a lady, and I want to respect others as well as myself.
I want to respect my husband, who I absolutely adore by the way.
I want to respect my loved ones.
Maybe it's just part of getting older and maturing.
 On the "followers" topic...
I love each of you. I really do. 
I am so thankful for your friendships.
The truth is...
I sometimes struggle with the whole "followers" concept.
In fact, I didn't even add the "followers" gadget until a year and a half ago. 
Remember, I've been blogging solely for our own records and to keep family and friends updated on us for over 5 years.
I think it's the word "followers"...like the blog owner is some sort of important leader or celebrity (well, I guess some are-I am not)...
I don't like that idea.
I consider each of you my friends, not followers.
In many ways I am so thankful I finally added the gadget because I have made some true friends that I would not have otherwise made. 
And I just love you all to death. 
I've addressed it before, and I'll address it again, I pretty much never join link-ups. 
Please do not take it personally. 
Again, I blog to keep a journal of our lives and to keep family and friends updated on us. 
Most of them don't know what link-ups are.
Heck, they don't even know how to follow or join.
But they make it to our site one way or another, and do so on a daily basis.
More importantly, this blog is a glimpse into my life as a Christian.
It is important that I be very aware of what I say and how I say it, because the last thing I ever want to do is ruin my witness.
I have always liked to live by the old saying that goes something like, "Would you do it if you knew it would be printed on the front page of the local newspaper?"
Well, this blog is like my newspaper.
Therefore, I try my best to behave and make good decisions.
I know this sounds strange to some people, but I almost always think about my future children when I make decisions.
Would they approve? Is it something I would want my children to say or do?
That really convicts me. It breaks me down.
Especially because I am a sinner and imperfect in every way.
I don't always say and do the right thing.
But I do try.
When I don't, I ask for forgiveness and I thank God for convicting me about my sins.
That's the best I can do.
All of that being said....now you know why I blog.
 I really am happy to be able to share our lives with our loved ones, as well as each of you faithful friends and readers.
I love you all to pieces, and most importantly, I THANK EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU for joining us on our journey!!
Your friendships have impacted me in ways that I never imagined possible.
I am humbled and I am grateful.
I wish we could all meet up in real life :). 
If you've read this far...you deserve an award!

21 comments:

  1. I love this. Well said, friend! Hugs!

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  2. I hope,I can become a friend of you,too.......

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  3. Well said and I totally understand what you are saying. I feel the same way and try so hard to be respectful of our families that read our blog on a daily basis. That phone call you described is not one we want to have happen either! Thanks for sharing the snip-it of your life on blogger! :) Glad we are friends!

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  4. I feel like you wrote this for me, I feel the same way about my blog:) There are times I wish I could really say it all too, but like you said you want to be respectful not only to faimly, friends, but my husband as well!!

    I love your blog and you are such a sweet girl!! Im glad wereblog "friends" :)

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  5. Great post! I struggle with these same feelings.. sometimes makes me wonder if I am wasting my time blogging about pointless things, when I could be doing something else. I appreciate your honesty and love reading your blog!

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  6. This was awesome. Alot of family & friends kept up with my prior blog to see how the wedding plans were coming along. Now that we are happily married, only a select few friends and family members know the new address. I can totally relate when you seriously want to just write a post to vent, but instead think of the people reading and keep it at a respectable level. I'm always hear to listen. I may not have the right things to say, or anything at all to help, but I will always lend an ear. You can e-mail me at any time.

    On the other hand, revival started last night and goes thru Wednesday! Starts at 7. Hope to see you there :)

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  7. This is exactly how I feel about my blog as well...some days I just want to vent about all that's going wrong in my life and not care who it might potentially effect but like you said I too respect my loved ones and friends too much to do that.
    Your blog is one of a few blogs I like to read and it's really refreshing to know that you and the other bloggers I keep up with are not "superheros" but everyday people like me. I do look at your blog and think, "wow that girl has it all together, with the perfect husband and perfect life" but like you said you are only human and you have your low moments as well. (F.Y.I.: I do think you have a beautiful family and a wonderful relationship with God and your faith.)

    Anyways this post made me remember that no one is perfect but God will continue to forgive us and love us.

    Thank you for posting this, it really made my day.

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  8. Loved this. And by posting it you were being "real". I totally know what you mean about the difference in the things you want to say and the thing you actually say. Even with facebook I'm constantly watching what I say (even though I dont always do the best job) so I dont offend any of my family members. That can make it difficult at times. I think you are doing a great job.

    :)

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  9. Great post, darling! I try to stay positive on my blog, too. I like what you said about not regretting your posts. None of us are perfect, and I think our readers know that even if we don't share personal stories (: You are such a light in my life! Thanks for writing (:

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  10. I adore this post. Like you, I can't post everything since family reads, and I like to try to see the positive in every day. Even if I'm just not feeling it. I have a few drafts of my own too, that will never be posted!

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  11. I love this post. I don't have any ppl I know from real life that read my blog, they don't even know about it. I did that so I could be real with what I write b/c its my therapy most days.

    I'm so glad I found your blog! I love reading it :)

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  12. loved this! I always love reading while other people blog. And don't worry...sometimes I have to censor my stuff too because our families read it and I don't need them knowing every single detail....i feel ya girl!

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  13. This is so perfectly written. I have a lot of the same feelings and knowing that the blog world can see Christ through me has been a good way for me to be accountable for the way I live my life. Oh, I could just agree with it all! :) Thank you for being real.

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  14. Great post, girl! I'm definitely the same way...I like to focus on the positives :) Hope you have a great week!

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  15. I do not think there is one blog post of yours that I hate ... I hove them all so very much! you will actually laugh but to see so many amazing pics of georgia excite me to the fullest I miss it oh so much there and am more then ready to be back in Savannah! Your blog always brings a smile to my face even on my bad days by seeing things happen and change there! I do think that any of us will ever be perfect but who wants a perfect person I think that by dealing with ups, downs and in betweens is what makes our love last and our love grow stronger for the ones who love and have chosen to spend the rest of our lives with.. I think @ times it helps to vent and just let it all out in a post even if its never sent! I hope you and Brandon have a great weekend :)

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  16. Wonderful post! I do have two blogs, this is one is MINE! It's where I write whatever I want and then I have a separate family blog that is more of a scrapbook for our family and a place for other family members to see what we're up to.
    I totally agree on the "followers" wording, I don't like it either!
    I do love reading about y'all and hope you continue to enjoy it!

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  17. I Love this..it is so honest and open! So, Thank You! I understand where you are coming from, I have wanted to post a blog about "Why I blog" but I haven't broughten myself to do so yet...I think it's simply because I don't think many people read mine! Which, I guess I shouldn't care..I Blog because I love to keep a journal of my life that I can reflect back on one day, I am very passionate about writing, and I want to keep my friends and family involved..especially when I don't see them as often!
    You've inspired me to maybe start thinking of a Post that revolves around WHY I BLOG!

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  18. Great post, and well said. I agree it is hard to write from the heart our true feelings/thoughts and know the world may be reading it. My blog is my journal of sorts it took me a long time to just let go and write whatever I was feeling, yet still somedays it feels odd knowing anyone can read it. Anyway, I love your blog and always look forward to reading your posts!

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  19. You are such an inspiration to other Christian bloggers out there! At least this one! I love checking your blog and reading about how devoted to each other and to the Lord that you and your husband are! With all of the "fluff" blogs out there, (no offense intended), your blog is such a breath of fresh air! Thank you for letting us take a peek into your life!

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  20. Oh this post makes my heart smile!

    Hope your doing well!

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  21. I consider you a true blog friend and love reading your life diary!

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